Every year, we spend the last few days trying to come up with a good New Years resolution(s). Some of them are pretty typical, like losing weight, finishing our to-do lists, learning a new language. Some of them are more complex, like starting a business, learning to play guitar or letting go of a past failing or trauma. Well I’m telling you to skip that this year.
Why do we make resolutions to begin on a “new year”? Why is the slogan “new year, new me!” so popular? Is there really anything wrong with the old you, the now you...? Is there really anything that needs changing, or do we just need a perspective shift?
I think we need to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to change who you are. We shouldn't promise ourselves we’ll lose weight. We shouldn't promise ourselves that we'll buy that gym membership or talk to a surgeon about a tummy tuck. We shouldn't promise to change ourselves, as if there’s something wrong with us. We are perfectly imperfect human beings. We are not a side, we are a main dish. We're valuable and beautiful and incredibly important to more people than we could possibly know. We don’t need to change who we are. It’s a lot easier to learn to accept who we are, today. The weight on a scale and the scars on our skin do not define us.
Learning to love ourselves isn’t easy. It isn’t something we can cross of our list and say “Great! I’m all done!” It takes daily work and affirmations. It takes effort and it comes with the knowledge that some days, we won’t achieve that goal. But it’s a lot cheaper than surgery. It’s a lot less painful than stepping on a scale and being disappointed that we don’t see the number we wanted to see. It’s even cheaper than a $20 gym membership. If you want to go to the gym this year to be healthier, go for it. If you want to schedule surgery to feel confident in your skin, do that. But please, PLEASE don’t make huge life changes because you think you have to. Don’t make huge life changes because you think that’s what the world wants to see.
Don’t make a New Years resolution because everyone else is and because you think that this is the year you’ll finally achieve something that’ll make you “worth” anything. You’re already worth everything to the right people. Now you just need to show that value to yourself.
Stay True, Be you. Much Love and Gumption